road one:-
raising expectations,
benchmark setting,
being the point of reference,
above comparisons,

feeling: strength-pride-win-achievement
contra:- ego-over confidence-powerful'est'


road two:-
living upto expectations,
crossing the benchmark,
having a reference point,
being compared,

feeling: weak-ashamed-looser-failure
contra:- motivated-learning-grow'ing'


tough to choose
at work, in love, in friendship, in everything

scared to maintain track
fear of being type-casted